ISSN: 2456–5474 RNI No.  UPBIL/2016/68367 VOL.- VII , ISSUE- VII August  - 2022
Innovation The Research Concept
Man-Woman relationship: A Study of Shashi Deshpandes A Matter of Time
Paper Id :  16383   Submission Date :  2022-08-06   Acceptance Date :  2022-08-17   Publication Date :  2022-08-21
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ShashiKanta Sengar

Department Of English
Jiwaji University
Gwalior,Madhya Pradesh, India
Abstract
Shashi Deshpande indisputably depicts the different roles of women in our society. The place of women in society has differed from age to age, yet almost societies never been considered the equal of men. Shashi Deshpande focus in her fiction the major themes such as man -woman relationship. She has constructed a grand edifice to expose and to speculate on the nature of man -woman relationship. The present paper deals with the inner life of middle class woman relationship with man as a father, brother and husband. The women are caught in the process of redefining and rediscovery their roles and position in society. This paper focuses the complexities of man-woman relationship.
Keywords Patriachal, Relationship.
Introduction
Shashi Deshpande’s novels primarily present a social world of many complex relationship. She is winner of the Sahitya Academy Award, for the novel That Long Silent, Shashi Deshpande major concern is to show the torments of the modern educated Indian women caught between patriarchy and tradition. She bears the multiple levels of oppression, including sexual oppression. Shashi Deshpande represent the suffering of women under the hands of their husbands. Marriage plays a vital role in the life of women. A matter of time, Deshpande’s seventh novel, published by penguin India in 1996. A Matter of Time was her favorite book because of her deep understanding and closeness to the characters. In Shashi Deshpande novels location is of prime significantly when she saw an old stone house with a garden, In Mall Easwaran, a locality still exuding an old – world charming Bangalore, but today is computer capital of India. Shashi Deshpande says that in her mind she saw the figures of three women in their combined with the real-life experience of a friend’s mother who, her husband after forty abandoned by years of marriage found the story of A Matter of Time. Usha Bande said about the novel:- There are three generations of women with their impregnable silence and suffocating life ; but it is the impatient new generation ready to fight It out tooth and nail that provided a whiff of cool breeze. How successful will this new generation be in getting justice is in fact, a matter of time.
Objective of study
In this article we can discuss about inequality and discrimination of women. They face unequal treatment at home and at work place. Women tries to prove that she have got ability to face the setback of life and to battle against men. Gur Pyari Jandial expresses- Shashi Deshpande’s A Matter of Time particularly deals with the theme of the quest for a female identity. The complexities of man-woman relationships especially in the context of marriage, the trauma of a distributed adolescence the attempt to break traditional moulds in which women are trapped, sexual description, the reflection of the dependence syndrome and introspection are some of the concerns which give the novel a feminist bent.
Review of Literature

The work in this paper is focusing on relationship between man-woman in our society. A male dominated society is bound in a patriarchal societal system. Where decision-makers and rule makers are mostly men and hence women are not consider a part of society. In India we worship various woman deities and goddesses but this is women sadly do not get the same respect and equal status.
Main Text

First Generation (Manorama-Vithalrao)

A comprehensive picture of the Indian women belonging to different generation. Manorama who represent the first generation, came from humble background and married with Vithalrao she broke off all the ties with her family. Manorama birth a baby girl whose name is Kalyani. Vithalrao never grudged the birth of Kalyani. It made no difference whether he had a son or a daughter. He wanted Kalyani to became a engineer. But Manorama was tormented by the fear that her husband marry again to have a son. Manorama knew that our tradition allowed him to leave his wife if she can not give birth to male child. The whole life Manorama could not established a healthy relationship with Kalyani. Manorama did not allow Kalyani was average in looks and Manorama wanted Kalyani to be beautiful so that she could find a better match for her. Manorama forced her youngest brother to marry Kalyani, so the property would remain in the family. Manorama emerges as an insecure woman in the novel. She breaks the image of suppressed wife who takes the traditional superior place of her husband. Stanley Carballo opines:

A Matter of Time, basically Is the human predicament. Always she concerned about people, their predicament and moral values. It is a search in every human being; something more than more mundane life.

Second Generation (Kalyani-Shripati)

Kalyani emerges as the most powerful character in the novel. . The most striking silent suffering is Kalyani who losing their son, a male heir, so her husbands punished her and spends nearly thirty five years in total silence with her husband. Shripati suspected Kalyani of deliberately losing the mental retarded son. The male child is necessary to carry forward the family name and legacy. Son is the provider, the protector and the rightful heir to the family. Kalyani and her husband Shripati which was filled only with dread, hopelessness, hatred, anger and silence. Shripati searched for the lost boy throughout the station like a mad man. He blamed Kalyani for all this incident so last thirty five years, never spoke to Kalyani. She knows the pain of absconding and rejection. Sunita Goyal Says:

 Kalyani attitude shows her enlightened state of mind where she can think of resisting patriarchal oppression instead of suffering silently, passively and endlessly by talking solace in other women’s company.

Third Generation (Sumi-Mohan)

Sumi is very silent and suffering woman. She is mature and have a good presence of mind. She has easily accepted the desertion of her husband but never complains anyone for her position. After twenty three years of marriage, Gopal could not speak, and easily way unburden his responsibility as a husband and father of three daughters. Hence Sumi along with her three daughters came to her parental home, her father Shripati refuses to let his daughter Sumi and her daughters stay all by themselves. Sumi remains silent and engage herself in empowering herself she starts to search a job. She finds a way to create herself identity she finds a job as teacher. She manages her role as a single parent very beautifully. Sumi finds her real identity after her separation from Gopal. Her decision of taking to teaching shows Sumi’s resilient spirit to create and her identity and realizing her autonomy and asserting her selfhood. In the words of H. Ranjita:

Sumi is one who does not compromise as an individual. She neither interferes with others decisions and individual to space not even with her husband’s decisions and individual space not even with her husband’s decisions to leave her and family life for good, nor does she let others interfere with sufferings and uncertainties of life Stoically and still maintains her individual self and independence.

Sumi’s daughters Aru becomes a symbol of indomitable spirit. Aru notice how the women finds no place in the family document. Aru was in dilemma, she was unable to understand her mother’s quite indifference, Sumi has found her own identity before her death. Manorama, Kalyani and Sumi live life of suffering and they tolerated due to having a son. Sumi’s daughter Aru, Charu and Seema are very educated. Aru become a lawyer and a Charu is going to be a doctor. The fourth generation acts like a male child in the family finally in this novel women proven their own power in the male dominated society.
Conclusion
According to Shashi Deshpande there is a sharp difference between woman’s world and a man’s world in our society. The tradition by which a woman is trained to play her sub-servient role in family.Manorama, Kalyani and Sumi suffering and tolerated due to not having a son. But Aru, Charu and Seema are very educated and try to balance a married life and professional life.
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